Arguing at Work

“There are two theories to arguin’ with a woman. Neither one works.” Cowboy Wisdom

The word ‘argue’ has negative connotations. We tend to think it means that emotions are flaring, voices are rising, and we are butting heads. The word doesn’t mean that at all. When we argue, we are simply trying to get something we want even, if it is as simple as getting our point across. The other person(s) is/are trying to keep us from it. A wise person will make sure that everyone gets what he wants or can live peacefully with the results.

Arguing is the art of disagreeing without being disagreeable. Arguing is a two-person dance. If both sides argue, we will achieve consensus or at least be able to live with the decision. Troubles arise when only side argues. In 1890, in the Gentle Art of Making Enemies, James Whistler stated, “I’m not arguing with you—I am telling you.” Whistler obviously had discovered a shortcut in making an enemy. Arguing (when performed correctly) does not create enemies. You create an enemy when you do not allow input and some form of consideration.........

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